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A lack of confidence and self-esteem can have a serious impact on people’s lives, including their relationships, health, wealth, success, and most importantly, their happiness.
An endless supply of digital media, from the internet and mobile applications to social platforms and influencer content, exacerbates this issue. In today's hyper-connected era, individuals are continually inundated with standards of success, beauty, and lifestyle that are often idealised and unrealistic. This ceaseless barrage of information conditions people over time to believe that their value lies in how closely they align with these imposed ideals. Consequently, more and more individuals are gradually losing confidence and suffering from diminished self-esteem.
The pervasiveness of such prescriptive and often distorted messages can easily obscure an individual's self-perception, eroding their innate confidence, strengths, and personal aspirations. It's a seductive trap to fall into the relentless pursuit of joining the frenzied masses, adhering to an often toxic depiction of success defined by ceaseless accumulation, impossibly packed schedules, and an unrealistic pursuit of the elusive 'more.'
Getting caught up in this noxious paradigm of accomplishment can lead to a detrimental impact on an individual’s self-assurance and sense of self-worth. It's not only unachievable due to its inherently unrealistic nature, but it also poses significant risks to mental and emotional health. Chasing this skewed version of success can lead to burnout and chronic dissatisfaction, as the goalposts for achievement are continuously being moved further away. It's an unhealthy cycle that perpetuates insecurity and undermines genuine self-esteem.
Guilt and shame over perceived failures can also give rise to the fear that whispers, “You will always be a failure.” I often refer to these whispers with clients as their ‘inner critic’ or ‘critical mind’, an annoying little voice of self-doubt inside their head that always seems to highlight their flaws and thereby diminish their confidence.
The things people say to themselves about not being smart enough, good enough, or brave enough make them lose confidence and trust in their abilities. The more someone says these things to themselves, the more blurred the lines become between what is real and what is exaggerated negative self-projection.
Even the smallest adjustment to a person's perspective can have profound, mind-altering shifts to their confidence and how they think of themselves.
So, if you’ve been routinely convincing yourself that you’re scared, fearful and lacking in confidence, your mind will do everything it can to make that your reality. It will make you nervous and anxious and give rise to an even more powerful ‘inner critic’. It will keep you exactly where you tell it you want to be, as if acting on your instructions. Although the mind resists change, it is also quite brilliant at changing through repetitioning. In other words, tell your mind something enough times and in the right way and it happily recodes itself to the new instruction. That’s an aspect of the mind that I take full advantage of when treating clients suffering from a lack of confidence and low self-esteem.
Every thought you think, every word you say to yourself and every picture you create in your mind, form a blueprint that your mind and body work to make your reality. And since your mind responds to the thoughts and words you tell it, then it will protect them and work hard to make them your reality. Knowing this, you can see that your reality isn’t something external to you at all, instead it’s whatever reality you create in your mind.
I use this powerful therapy to help people get to the root cause of their emotional, physical, or cognitive issues. When I’m treating a client for the issues that are causing a lack of confidence or low self-esteem, I believe it is crucial to help them change their way of thinking, and any unhelpful beliefs and patterns of behaviour. Concentrating on the causes rather than the symptoms vastly increases the chance of success and achieving lasting change.
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COACHD hypnotherapy works with the subconscious mind, helping people deal with their past trauma and transforming any negative thoughts and beliefs into positive, empowering new ones. With COACHD Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™) and Hypnotherapy, my clients learn how to transform their confidence issues and master self-esteem. I believe my therapy is the most powerful and effective treatment available for these issues. Read more about Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™).