I can help you feel relaxed!
An inability to feel relaxed lays in people's stress, worry and anxious thoughts, and so it is important to consider the difference between these issues to understand the cause of your own relaxation problem.
If you find it hard to distinguish between stress, worry, and anxiety, you are not alone. With symptoms that can overlap, knowing which one you are experiencing can be tricky, but there are subtle differences!
Read my guide below to the differences between anxiety, stress, and worry to see which one you may be experiencing and how COACHD therapies can help you overcome them all.
Some people seem to worry about everything. You can probably identify people in your life who are constant worriers. They appear to be the eternal pessimist, always expecting or preparing for the worst, you hear it in everything they say, and you see it in their actions too.
Most people worry from time to time but when the worrying becomes chronic, it can seriously interfere with daily life. A pattern of negative thinking can become an uncontrollable cycle which, if left unchecked can escalate into irrational fears and phobias.
People that get fixated on a problem are more likely to let their worries get the better of them. I remind my clients that a problem is only a problem if they make it a problem, and I teach them the importance of viewing a problem, or potential problem, from the correct perspective. I refer to this perspective as the 3 P’s and teach my clients that for a problem to qualify as a problem at all, then it must satisfy the following criteria:
By considering these questions, my clients are empowered with a greater sense of control over their situation. When using the 3 P’s criteria, there is a strong chance that the issue is not a problem at all, instead, it’s an obstacle, hurdle, or barrier that can be overcome with the right help and support. This method of perspectivisation can immediately reduce the worry associated with someone’s situation.
So what happens when you’re stressed? Stress is not just in your head; it is in your body too. 77% of people report that the stress they are experiencing affects their physical health(1). The symptoms(2) typically associated with stress include:
When the cause of someone’s stress is external, it can be hard to imagine how to overcome it. I show my clients that they do have the power to overcome stress and that help is available to them, read on.
When someone is stressed, it triggers their sympathetic nervous system, during which they are constantly in ‘fight or flight’ mode. To free themselves from the effects of stress, they need to stimulate their parasympathetic nervous system, the body state where natural healing and renewal occur. I teach my clients to make time for calming activities, that slow their heart rate, and ask them to listen to one of my guided meditation or hypnosis audios, specifically designed to eliminate the feelings associated with stress. These recordings can help them feel calm, both in the moment and the long term, by providing them with practical, empowering tools and techniques to manage the thoughts, feelings and symptoms associated with stress.
If someone hates their job and they are stressed, then once they quit their job the symptoms of the stress will go away on their own. However, if the feeling of stress lingers long after the problem has been resolved then this would be anxiety.
With anxiety, an individual will envisage a threat where there is none, such as reading too much into an email from a colleague and fearing that their job is at risk. The threat is imagined but feels very real to the individual. Anxious feelings can manifest into an anxiety disorder which has a significant impact on the person's day-to-day life. Anxiety disorders include Panic Disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder(4), General Anxiety Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and Phobias, which are another type of anxiety disorder.
That feeling of not being enough is an incredibly common issue. In fact, without any consultation, I can confidently tell my clients that there are only three things that can be wrong with them. The first is, I’m not enough. The second is, I’m different so I can’t connect. And the third is, I really want something, like a successful sporting career, but it isn’t available to me. A possible fourth belief is, even if there is help available to me, I don’t deserve it.
Ultimately what this feeling of not being enough comes down to is a lack of self-belief and the fear of failure, judgement, and rejection. From birth, we are hard-wired to find connection and avoid rejection. It’s the fear of rejection that is crippling and can cause many of the issues that I treat in my clinic. I teach my clients that the only person who could truly reject them is themselves, and that other people can only reject them if they choose to let the feeling in. ‘I am enough’ is a phrase I ask my clients to tell themselves repeatedly, because when they know they are enough and they truly believe it, everything becomes available to them.
So, if you’ve been routinely convincing yourself that you’re a failure and lack confidence, your mind will do everything it can to make that your reality. Issues including Depression, Nerves, Anxiety and a lack of Confidence are good examples of this, they are your mind and body's response to the beliefs that you hold about yourself, beliefs that can give rise to an even more powerful ‘inner critic’. Your mind will keep you exactly where you tell it you want to be, as if acting on your instructions.
Although the mind resists change, it is also quite brilliant at changing through repetition. In other words, tell your mind something enough times and in the right way and it happily recodes itself to the new instruction. That’s an aspect of the mind that I take full advantage of when treating clients suffering from relaxation issues.
My therapies are designed to radically address the issues that are impacting your life. This includes your physical and emotional health, resilience, confidence, self-esteem, motivation, purpose and meaning, career, creating wealth and abundance, and achieving the life you want. I have developed a powerful programme of Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy and Skills support to help people living with relaxation issues, often because they lack the emotional strategies that are key to their mental health and wellbeing. COACHD Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™) and Hypnotherapy work with the subconscious mind, helping my clients reset their negative thoughts and beliefs to positive, empowering new ones that support wellness, and personal or professional development.
By helping my clients fix the beliefs that lead to relaxation issues, they are empowered to become the person they most want to be. Additional skills support is available to COACHD clients through my Coached Method Coaching™ service which helps them develop the practical skills needed to excel in all aspects of their life confidently, without being anxious and stressed, as well as helping them progress in work, wealth, and relationship and an unstoppable future! Read more about COACHD Method Coaching™.
I use this powerful therapy to help people get to the root cause of their emotional, physical, or cognitive issues. When I treat a client for relaxation issues, I believe it is crucial to help them change their way of thinking, and any unhelpful beliefs and patterns of behaviour. Concentrating on the causes rather than the symptoms vastly increases the chance of success and lasting change.
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COACHD hypnotherapy works with the subconscious mind, helping people deal with their past trauma and transforming any negative thoughts and beliefs into positive, empowering new ones. With COACHD Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™) and Hypnotherapy, my clients learn how to master their thoughts and feelings and transform relaxation issues for good. I believe my therapy is the most powerful and effective treatment available for this condition. Read more about Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™).