We can help you live a life free from nervousness.
In order to survive, our brains were filled with negative emotions and our bodies were fuelled by the chemistry this created. After all, you didn’t survive a natural disaster, ferocious attack, deadly disease, or starvation simply by being optimistic. And even though things are a lot better for us now, our brains really haven’t changed at all.
Often, we’ll say things like, “Ugh, if that person talks to me again, I’ll die” or “I literally cannot survive another meeting at work.” And though you may see this as harmless hyperbole, I mean ‘obviously, you don’t really think you’ll die if that person talks to you, do you?’ your subconscious mind already feels otherwise. It is crucial to understand that the brain has no sense of humour, and only picks up on words it hears and the pictures that those words and your thoughts create - it thinks they’re real and it acts upon the information it’s being given, the information you’re giving it – you know ‘the stressy dying thing’.
Our clients struggle with a variety of different issues and conditions, including anxiety, depression, addictions, fears, phobias, migraines, skin problems, anorexia, and obesity, and more. Most often we find that even though the symptoms of these conditions are very real and have a serious impact on the client’s health and well-being, the cause of the issue or illness is psychosomatic - caused or aggravated by a mental factor such as internal conflict or stress.
This alternative outcome is what we call the Role, Function, Purpose, and Intention of the presenting problem, in this case, the migraine. When the symptom of an issue, like the migraine in this example, has an intended purpose that benefits the patient (i.e., escaping criticism), then it isn’t going to correct itself until we’ve first helped the patient change the belief that caused the issue to form.
That said, we still tell ourselves some crazy stuff, and sometimes, we subconsciously create functions and intentions (mentioned earlier) for the pain we’re consequently experiencing. Our emotional pain is very often expressed through the body as a physical symptom. Thankfully, the solution to this problem is quite simple, only requiring us to train ourselves to think better thoughts.
Our brains are wired to chase familiar experiences and avoid unfamiliar ones. This I’m sure you agree makes sense from a point of reducing risk and increasing the chance of survival. Trying something new always feels harder, or risker than doing something you’ve always done.
This tendency towards the familiar can lead to some dangerous habits too. Have you ever experienced a toxic relationship? Often, that toxicity becomes so familiar, that suddenly it becomes your reality and the experience that you move towards, time and time again. In doing so, you also create a false narrative, telling yourself that this is how relationships are for you, and how they need to be, and you stay a part of that false narrative for as long as possible. Humans are hard-wired to recreate what is familiar to them, we prefer what we know, even if it’s bad for us.
So how do we change our story? How do we make thoughts like ‘I’m beautiful, I’m worthy, I’m capable’ stick in our brains and become our familiar way of thinking? .
Well, you can start by getting up each and every morning and telling yourself, ‘I’m a good person. I have a skill, I have a talent, and I have something to offer the world. I’m here for a reason.’ Whatever it is you most want to hear, say it to yourself, because your mind doesn’t know what’s coming, it’s just waiting for your next instruction, so why not make them the things that make you feel wonderful? Keep in mind that the words you say to yourself and the pictures you create in your head cause your body to have a physical response, usually of equal measure and proportion, so choosing your words wisely means they will work for you and not against you.
Sure it sounds almost too easy, but here’s the thing, you have to be consistent. If you’re going to tell yourself a better story and you want it to stick, you absolutely must tell yourself that story every day, always and forever - the mind learns through repetition.
There is actually nothing on the planet that will raise your self-esteem more than receiving someone's praise, but self-praise is even better. And because the mind likes repetition so much, when praising yourself every day, your mind thinks, ‘Here you go again with that praise. You say it every day, it must be true.’ Similarly, if you criticise yourself every day, your mind works the exact same way, accepting it to be the truth and helping build upon this blueprint as your preferred mode of being.
A massive part of your well-being relies on the story you’re telling yourself. Bad things will inevitably happen to you, as with everyone else, and when something bad does happen, you will inevitably attach meaning to that event. Blaming yourself, and self-criticism are harmful, but you can reverse these familiar responses and change your story from ‘I’m worthless’ to ‘I’m worthy’ and see the remarkable effect that has on your life.
That feeling of not being enough is easily the biggest issue our clients face. In fact, without any consultation, we can confidently tell our clients that there are only three things that can be wrong with them. The first is, I’m not enough. The second is, I’m different, so I can’t connect. And the third is, I really want something, like freedom from nerves and anxiety, but it isn’t available to me. A possible fourth belief is, even if there is help available, I don’t deserve it.
Ultimately what this feeling of not being enough comes down to is a lack of self-belief and the fear of rejection. From birth, we are hard-wired to find connection and avoid rejection. It’s the fear of rejection that is crippling and can cause many of the issues we treat in our clinic. We teach our clients that the only person who could truly reject them is them and that other people can only reject them if they choose to let the feeling in. ‘I am enough’ is a phrase we ask our clients to tell themselves repeatedly because when they know they are enough, and they truly believe it, everything is available to them.
If you’ve been routinely convincing yourself that you’re not very good, your mind will do everything it can to make that your reality. Nerves, anxiety and confidence issues are good examples of this, they are your mind and body's response to the beliefs you hold about yourself and a way of protecting you from a fear of failure or judgement.
Repeated negative thoughts will demotivate you and give rise to an even more powerful ‘inner critic’. It will keep you exactly where you tell it you want to be. Although the mind resists change, it is quite brilliant at learning through repetition – tell it something enough times and in the right way and it happily recodes itself to the new instruction. That’s an aspect of the mind that COACHD takes full advantage of with our Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™) and Hypnotherapy when treating clients suffering from nerves and a lack of confidence.
Every thought you think, every word you say to yourself and every picture you create in your mind, form a blueprint that your mind and body work to make your reality. And since your mind responds to the thoughts and words you tell it, then, by definition, it will protect them and make them your reality. Knowing this, you can see that your reality isn’t something external to you, it is whatever reality you create in your mind.
Our therapies are designed to radically address the issues that are impacting your life. This includes your confidence, self-esteem, motivation, purpose and meaning, relationships, career, creating wealth and abundance, and achieving the life you want. COACHD has a powerful programme of Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy and Skills support to help people struggling with nervousness. COACHD Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™) and HypnotherapyHypnotherapy work with the subconscious mind, helping people reset their negative thoughts and beliefs to positive, empowering ones that support their well-being, and personal development.
By helping people fix the issues that have led to them feeling nervous or anxious, COACHD therapy empowers them to become the person they most want to be. Further support is available to COACHD clients through our COACHD Method Coaching™ service which helps them develop the knowledge and skills needed to live confidently and without feeling nervous or anxious, as well as helping them progress in life, work, wealth, and relationship – and an unstoppable future! Read more about COACHD Method Coaching™.
RTT™ helps people get to the root cause of their emotional, physical, or cognitive issues. When treating a client for the issues that are causing nervousness or anxiety, we believe it is crucial for us to help them change their way of thinking, and any unhelpful beliefs and behaviour, in order for them to increase their chances of success and achieve lasting change.
Our hypnotherapy works with the subconscious mind, helping people deal with their past trauma and transforming any negative thoughts and beliefs into positive, empowering new ones. With COACHD Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™) and Hypnotherapy, our clients can boost their confidence and eliminate nervousness. We believe our therapy is the most powerful and effective treatment available for your nervousness and anxiety issues. Read more about Rapid Transformational Therapy™(RTT™).
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